Relationships and Past Lives: Special Love and Special Hate

Here are some excerpts from Gary Renard’s books, The Disappearance of the Universe and Your Immortal Reality, as well as from my Dude, Where’s My Jesus Fish? book, on the topic of special relationships connected to past lives.


Your Immortal Reality
  When you meet people in this lifetime whom you’ve had dealings and special hate interests with before in other lifetimes, it’s because you’re orbiting each other, just as planets orbit the sun.  Because the unconscious mind has retained the memory of them, you’ll have conflict, sometimes right away and sometimes later in the relationship. That shows up as a problem for you, but it's also a marvelous opportunity, if you have the mental discipline to use it. J is very eloquent about that when he says, "The holiest of all the spots on earth is where an ancient hatred has become a present love."

  In some lifetimes you'll be the victim, and in others, the victimizer.  The question is, what are you going to use it for this time, freedom or bondage?  Are you going to get that you are NOT a victim and take responsibility for dreaming, or are you going to make it real and stay stuck here?

Your Immortal Reality
  The reason some of your forgiveness lessons are so hard is because your unconscious mind remembers the bad relationship you had with the other person in a previous lifetime, so you’ve been set up to have tremendous unconscious resistance to forgiving them in this lifetime.  Plus, there’s the resistance to giving up your personal identity that is always there, because the ego senses that if you practice forgiveness, then this is its end.  EVERYONE has these past-life relationships, and the memories are unconscious.  That’s why it’s so much harder to forgive your special hate relationships than your special love relationships.

Your Immortal Reality
  It's easy to forgive your special love relationships - your family, friends, and lovers - just because you love them. On the other hand, your special hate relationships, the people you don't like, well, you're never gonna forgive those bastards because they don't deserve it. But you think the people you love deserve only good. So even if a member of your family killed somebody, you'd be right there in the courtroom, rooting for them to get off.  Yet real love and forgiveness wouldn't exclude anyone. They apply to everyone.

Mikey's Note: Of course, forgiveness doesn't mean you have to hang out with those you are forgiving. It's just a matter of seeing people as they really are, as innocent.  Until we see everyone as being completely innocent, we won't see ourselves as being completely innocent.  When we feel a need to condemn someone, what we are really doing is just condemning an aspect of our own selves, and those people who we think we are making wrong in our minds is just a symbol of how we really feel about ourselves, though it’s usually unconscious.  As A Course in Miracles clearly puts it, “As you see him you will see yourself.  As you treat him you will treat yourself.  As you think of him you will think of yourself.  Never forget this, for in him you will find yourself or lose yourself.”

The Disappearance of the Universe
  Just as the world confuses pain with pleasure, it also confuses sacrifice with love.  Yet what is sacrifice in the final analysis but a call for pain?  Is that what you really want for the ones you love?  Your special loves are simply idols in which you seek to get what you feel is lacking in yourself.  Romance is a vain attempt to fill an imagined emptiness – a hole that doesn't really exist, but that you experience as a result of the separation.  That sense of lack can really only be healed by the Atonement and salvation, leading you to the wholeness of your oneness with God.

Dude, Where’s My Jesus Fish?
  Certainly nothing wrong with being in a romantic relationship, or having any other type of special love relationship.  Even Jesus had special love relationships, as Arten and Pursah inform us that he was married to Mary Mag’dalene.  So, it’s not about GIVING UP special love relationships, it’s all about forgiving any psychological attachment you may have to your special love relationships.  So if you find yourself demanding, what Arten refers to as, ‘the fulfillment of special love bargains’ then that’s the red flag that there is something that needs to be forgiven.  Also, any feelings of abandonment or resentment when the special love relationship comes to an end will obviously need to be forgiven as well.

The Disappearance of the Universe
  I give you this humble bit of counseling when it comes to all of your relationships in this world, whether they were founded on special love or special hate: Why don't you stop worrying about whether or not people love you and just love them?  Then it doesn't matter what they think about YOU.  You can just BE love.  It's so simple!  And guess what?  It will ultimately determine how you feel about yourself!

Mikey’s Note: As I mentioned in the Dude book, I think it is fair to say that I don’t have any special hate relationships, but I do have a number of special undesirable ones.  And we can’t talk about special relationships without saying something about sex, so here goes:

The Disappearance of the Universe
  The physical act of sex doesn't even come close to the incredible bliss of Heaven.  It's just a poor, made-up imitation of union with God.  It's a false idol made to fix your attention on the body and the world with just enough of a payoff to keep you coming back for more.  It's very similar to a narcotic.  Heaven, on the other hand, is a perfect, indescribable ecstasy that never ceases; the very peak of a perfect sexual orgasm, except this orgasm never stops.  It keeps going on forever with no decrease in its powerful and flawless intensity.

Mikey’s Note: I like Pursah’s pun, “coming back for more.” Anyway, doesn't mean we can't have it and enjoy it, like anything else in this world that brings us instant but temporary gratification, it's just a matter of not being psychologically attached to it.

Wrapping this puppy up with a funny:
The Disappearance of the Universe
Pursah: Since sex is part of what you call life, where would you like to begin?
Gary: The Course teaches that temptation wants to convince me I'm a body, so I guess the question is: How do I live the normal life you said I could live, practice the Course, and still not feel bad about that body identification part of my dream life?
Arten: By remembering what it is and forgiving it at an appropriate time.  A dream is nothing, and sex is nothing.  But I wouldn’t recommend that you turn to your partner after making love and say, ‘That was nothing.’
Gary: I KNEW I was doing something wrong.


Giddy up!

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