Why Forgive?

Forgiveness is a gift that you always give to yourself. There are people and situations out there (seemingly) in the world that may push your buttons, and generate some uncomfortableness within you (anger, jealousy, resentment, fear, guilt, feelings of inferiority/superiority etc.) These type of people and situations that come into your life are symbolic of what's in your own unconscious mind. And until all that is healed through the process called 'true forgiveness' you will continue to experience these feelings. As you forgive somebody or something, you are really forgiving an aspect of yourself that needs healing by your forgiveness. Whether you realize or not, its always yourself you're really forgiving. So the benefits of forgiveness always go to the forgiver.

Here's an example of what will happen if you don't forgive. Say your in a work place and you are intimidated by your boss and he or she is a insensitive jerk and mistreats you, and on the level of form you may very well be right. But would you rather be right, or would you rather be happy? As it says in DU, there are only two things you can do, see the problem as being outside of yourself and judge, or correctly forgive it. As Pursah says '....those are the only two choices no matter how complex the world may seem.' So if you decide to quit your job because you hate your boss, and move on to another job, well, guess what? You will attract another boss just like that previous boss (if not sooner, than later) unless true forgiveness has been applied. We can't runaway from these things, wherever you go, there you are! This path puts us in the driver's seat, all we have to do is choose that voice of the holy spirit, or higher self, and we can't lose!

The biggest thing on this spiritual path is that we have to take full responsibility for everything we experience. There are no victims in this world! Whatever we experience in our lives that we do not like is of our own making; we do this to ourselves, including the things that are not seemingly our fault. As we take full responsibility for everything we experience, and forgive, there will be less and less things that can push our buttons, because the buttons will have been removed by our forgiveness. You will then find certain things that once disturbed your peace of mind, to be easily laughed at! An that alone makes this spiritual path worth doing. And then eventually we'll get to point where we can be like J, and laugh at anything that comes our way!
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